The Gift Your Parents Actually Gave You (Even If They Weren't Perfect)
Look, we've all been there. Lying awake at 2 AM thinking, "God, I wish my parents were different." More affectionate. Less critical. Present instead of absent. The kind who actually got you instead of projecting their own stuff onto you. I get it. I've had that conversation with myself more times than I can count. And I've sat with hundreds of people who've said the same thing, tears streaming down their faces, asking: "Why couldn't I have just had normal, loving parents?" But here's the thing I've learned on this path, and it's going to sound weird at first: You don't actually need nice parents. You need effective ones. And here's the kicker, every parent is effective. Even the terrible ones. Especially the terrible ones, sometimes. What "Effective" Really Means Before you throw your phone across the room, hear me out. I'm not saying abuse is okay. I'm not asking you to slap a gratitude sticker on trauma ...